This is a collection of many of the glaring contradictions, gaslighting and reversals found in the gender identity movement. Leonie Z began the hashtag #Transparadox about two years ago. These #transparadoxes have been collected from many people across social media platforms, mostly Facebook, thanks to Leonie’s efforts. Special thanks to @smolgardenghost for her work in gathering 11 of these items. We will update the list as necessary.
| They say | They also say |
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| Gender is innate, and the brains of ‘trans women’ match [bio] women’s brains. | ‘Trans women’ need [bio] women to teach us how to walk, do makeup and fashion, and all the other things that come naturally to women. |
| ‘TERFs’ are denying biological science. | ‘TERFs’ are biological essentialists! |
| Sex and gender are not the same. | Referring to a person’s biological sex ‘misgenders’ that person. |
| Sex is a social construct. | Gender is a biological reality. It’s a feeling. A really valid true feeling. |
| Gender is innate and immutable. | Biology is an arbitrary social construct imposed on newborn babies by doctors. |
| Gender is a social construct. |
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| Sex is not real, because ‘intersex’ conditions (conditions of congenital development) exist. | Ok, true, most trans people don’t have the chromosomal disorders that lead to ‘intersex’ conditions…but just the fact that ‘intersex’ conditions even exist is proof that ‘trans’ people are the sex we say we are. |
| Being ‘trans’ is just about finding and accepting your true, innate self. | Encouraging young people to accept their own bodies is transphobic conversion therapy! Young people must be put on puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones, and be allowed to undergo surgery as soon as possible in order to be their authentic selves. |
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Gender dysphoria is a medical condition, and we must all support state-sanctioned taxes toward treating trans health with hormone therapy and surgeries. Trans lives depend on it. |
| Gender dysphoria is a mental condition. | The recommended treatment for the mental condition of gender dysphoria is hormones and surgery to change the look of the physical body. |
| Sexual orientation is attraction to a person’s gender. | You can’t tell a person’s gender just by looking at them! |
| Being ‘trans’ is not a mental illness. |
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| I just want to be treated like everyone else. | You must disregard science and reframe your entire understanding of grammar to accommodate my wacky neo-pronouns. |
| No one knows who’s ‘trans’. You can’t tell without checking genitals or testing chromosomes. ‘Trans’ people have always been around. You see ‘trans’ people daily and don’t know they’re ‘trans’. |
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| It’s better a ‘transitioned’ kid than a dead kid. If they don’t get puberty blockers and masectomies, they will never pass, and it will inevitably drive them to suicide. | You were gender non-conforming as a child and grew to middle-aged adulthood without medical intervention?? You’re just a closeted, self-hating ‘trans man’ / ‘trans woman’! You’re holding us brave, ‘out’ trans people back by contradicting our narratives! |
| You are literally killing ‘trans women’ when you name or discuss any part of your anatomy, such as vagina – even if in regards to your health. We don’t have those body parts, and we get super triggered by any reminder that these parts exist. Any reminder of your anatomy is invalidating and makes us suicidal! |
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| Everyone can self-identify. | You’re ‘cis’ whether you like it or not, sweetie! |
| ‘Trans women of color sex workers’ are murdered all the time. Protect ‘trans’ lives. | Sex work is empowering! Sex work is literally the underground railroad for ‘trans’ youth! |
| Gender is innate. | Gender is fluid. |
| My ex-wife and I reproduced a child with my sperm naturally. | Yes, I have a biological child, but you as a [bio] woman are privileged in a discussion of female infertility. Your pain at being infertile is nothing compared to my inability to be a mother, because you have a womb to validate you! |
| ‘Trans’ people break the gender boxes people are confined to. | Men wearing makeup and dresses in the media or fashion shows is literally transphobic! If men wearing makeup and dresses is normalized, ‘trans women’ will no longer be able to use these tools to signal that we’re women! |
| You never have to have sex with anyone you don’t want to. | Excluding ‘trans’ people from your pool of potential sex partners is literally transphobic! Pansexuality is the only orientation that is morally defensible. |
| I can’t accept myself. I find my body so disgusting that I’ll have healthy body parts amputated, body parts added that would never naturally be there, and change my physique drastically with hormones and surgery. I’d rather kill myself than live in this body. | If you don’t find my body acceptable and sexually appealing enough to have sex with me, you’re a bigoted, cissexist, sex essentialist vagina fetishist who deserves to die in a fire. You’re literally killing ‘trans women’ with your transphobic rejection of our bodies. |
| ‘Trans’ people deserve to have our sexual desirability validated with catcalls and compliments, and for people to be open to us as sex partners. | If you are sexually curious about, have a strong sexual attraction to or a sexual preference for ‘trans’ or ‘nonbinary’ people, that is just fetishising and offensive, you super creepy ‘trans’ chaser! |
| Pansexuality is the only orientation that is morally defensible. | Some ‘trans people’ have had trauma with ‘cis’ people, and prefer to date trans and non-binary people only. |
| Lesbians who won’t have sex with ‘trans women’ are selfish vagina fetishists. | Lesbians who won’t have sex with ‘trans’ women are frigid, stuck up ‘TERF’ b***hes who need therapy. |
| I’m trans, but only attracted to ‘cis’ bodies. | Not being attracted to ‘trans’ people is transphobic! |
| I’m ‘trans’ and only attracted to [bio] women, because people with penises trigger my gender dysphoria. |
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| ‘Trans’ people are fighting labels. Labels are unnecessary. | We have invented more labels than any group that has ever lived. We labeled hundreds of genders and sexual orientations! |
| ‘Cis’ women are scum. ‘Trans women’ are better women than you are. We look better. We don’t have all those unnecessary parts. I don’t envy you. You envy me! | I wish I had been born into a female body. You oppress me with this privilege. |
| Misgendering ‘trans’ people is literally violence. It is so unbearable that we get depressed and suicidal. | ‘Trans’ people can handle the military, where we will be subjected to the violence of war, be issued a weapon, and get yelled at by those who outrank us. |
| Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is transphobic to distinguish between the experiences of women and ‘trans women’! There are no differences. | Trans women have the unique experience of transmisogyny. |
| Do you care about the mental health of trans people and how it will be affected by telling them to use the wrong public bathroom? | The world doesn’t have to change for your mental health issues. If a woman has PTSD due to sexual assaults, it’s her personal problem. |
| Male and female don’t really exist. Sex is a spectrum. | I underwent a sex transition from male to female / female to male. |
| ‘Trans women’ are not safe in the men’s toilets. Men are so dangerous. | Why are so many women uncomfortable with ‘gender-neutral’ (mixed sex) toilets? It’s not like men are dangerous. |
| Saying women should have sex-specific spaces is literally like racial segregation. I refuse to say men can be dangerous. That’s sexist. You’re a misandrist! | ‘Trans women’ aren’t safe sharing restrooms, locker rooms or prisons with men, because men could attack them! ‘Cis’ men are the ones everyone needs to fear! |
| Sex-specific facilities won’t protect women, because anyone can enter. If a crime occurs, just report it. | As ‘trans women’, we need access to women’s sex-specific facilities to protect us from the men we fear may attack us if we use men’s facilities. |
| ‘Trans women’ are unsafe in male facilities because of men. | Self-ID and gender-neutral facilities will make ‘trans women’ more comfortable (although these policies make it possible for men who aren’t ‘trans’ to enter the same facilities at the same time). |
| ‘TERFs’ get the wall. Punch a ‘TERF’. I’ll make that ‘TERF’ suck my girl d**k. | There’s no reason to fear ‘trans women’ in female spaces. |
| Misgendering and deadnaming are acts of violence. Words kill! | When we say “kill a TERF”, “die in a fire”, or “suck my girldick”, it’s obviously a figure of speech. Stop making out that we’re threatening you. |
| ‘Trans women’ are not a danger to you. Y’all should be addressing ‘cis’ men. | Get our pronouns straight and let us in your spaces, or you ‘TERFs’ will be on the wrong end of these bats and knives. |
| ‘Trans women are women’ without hormone therapy, surgery or shaving. When you are a woman, everything you have is a woman’s body part, including your penis. | ALL children must be put on hormone therapy / puberty blockers as soon as possible. |
| ‘Trans’ people should not have to have any medical procedure that would make us infertile. We have as much right to have children as anyone else! | Children and teenagers should be given access to puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones, even though it will make them infertile later in life. |
| Your breasts, vagina, womb and ability to menstruate and give birth have nothing to do with being a woman! | I know I’m a woman, because I’m repulsed by my male body parts. I feel so invalid with no breasts, vagina, uterus or period! |
| We just want the same rights as everyone else. | Give up the rights to sex-specific sports, refuges and facilities your foremothers fought for, and accommodate our feelings. |
| Sex is a spectrum / sex doesn’t exist. | Male and female facilities and institutions should continue to exist, but we ‘trans women’ should have access to women’s, rather than campaigning for third spaces in sports, prisons or refuges. |
| Men beat, rape and kill us. | WOMEN must change and accept us. If you don’t like sharing sex-specific facilities with us, you are ‘TERFs’ who deserve for us to harm you, so you better just stay home. |
| You will be referred to as vagina-havers, because women is a trans-exclusionary term. | You reduce yourselves down to your vaginas, you sex-essentialists! |
| To avoid being trans-exclusionary, we will call you ‘menstruators’, ‘cervix-havers’, ‘uterus-bearers’ and ‘pregnant people’. | You reduce yourselves to your bodily functions and reproductive capabilities! That’s patriarchal! |
| ‘Trans women’ have never benefited from male privilege. | As a ‘trans woman’, I suddenly became aware of sexism after ‘transition’ when I experienced sexism for the first time. |
| We are depressed and suicidal. | NOT in a mentally ill way. |
| As a ‘trans man’, I don’t identify as female. I reject all aspects of being female, including my physical anatomy and reproductive biology, which trigger my dysphoria. | I’m a ‘trans man’ who will get pregnant, give birth and breastfeed. |
| ‘Trans women’ wish we had the privilege of having your reproductive organs to feel valid in our gender. That makes you privileged over ‘trans women’. | Endometriosis, dysmenorrhea, and cervical or ovarian cancers validate women’s gender identity, making you privileged. Women in support groups for sufferers of endometriosis, dysmenorrhea, or ovarian or cervical cancers must be silent, give space to and center any ‘trans women’ who are in the group. |
| Men can get pregnant and give birth. | Change the language from ‘breastfeeding’ to ‘chestfeeding’ so that I as a ‘trans man’ won’t feel less of a man when my infant is suckling. |
| I am a woman. | I love my penis and will keep it. It’s fun. Vagina is disgusting and men get bored of them. |
| ‘Trans’ people don’t need therapy to try to make them accept the body they were born in. That’s conversion therapy. It’s wrong and gatekeeping. It stigmatizes and medicalizes our identities. | De-transitioners clearly should have had therapy before transitioning. |
| Everyone who says they are trans is trans. | Anyone who de-transitions was never really trans in the first place. |
| Everyone who says they are trans is trans. | Males who sexually assault or rape women or children aren’t really ‘trans women’, even if they say they are, and even if they have taken hormone therapy and / or undergone ‘gender-affirming’ surgery.
Rapists, voyeurs and pedophiles are never real ‘trans women’, but they must be housed in women’s prisons if they say they’re trans women – and you better use their preferred pronouns. |
| The person who committed that sex crime isn’t a real ‘trans woman’. Real trans women have breasts and dress like women. They blend in. You meet them daily, and don’t know they’re trans. | When you’re a woman, literally your whole body is a woman’s body, including your beard, penis and chest hair. Requiring trans people to undergo medical procedures is transphobic bigotry that marginalizes poor ‘trans women’. |
| Don’t confuse sex and gender. | ‘Trans women’ who are attracted to men are straight. Men who are attracted to ‘trans women’ are straight. ‘Trans women’ who are attracted to women are lesbians. Lesbians who are attracted to trans women are lesbians. Because ‘trans women’ are women! |
| I bet you have no proof! I’ve never heard of a ‘trans woman’ committing a violent or sex crime. That never happens! | You only know about those crimes committed by ‘trans women’ because you went looking, ‘TERF’. You’re picking on a marginalized group by gathering news on incidents that we said never happen. You need help. Stop thinking of yourselves and worry about how marginalized we are. |
| [Bio] women have the cis-privilege of being recognized as their true gender. | Unlike ‘trans women’, [bio] women’s and girls’ experience sexual violence, other physical violence or murder is never as a result of them being seen as their ‘gender’ by violent men. |
| Listen to ‘trans’ people. |
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| Ask a ‘trans’ person. | It’s not ‘trans’ people’s job to do the emotional labor to educate you. That’s what Google is for. |
| Women who don’t teach me makeup and fashion are gatekeeping femininity! | It’s not my job to educate you! There are resources everywhere, sweetie. |
| Gender is very complex and you need to educate yourself. | That four-year-old child has figured out gender and ‘come out’ as trans, and you adults need to accept it without question. |
| People who say there are only two sexes and that sex is an immutable trait are FASCISTS. Transactivism is anti-fascism. | People who say there are only two sexes and that sex is an immutable trait should be questioned and arrested by police, charged with a hate crime, de-platformed, fired from their jobs, ex-communicated by their friends, and punched / beaten with bats / covered in milkshakes / given the wall. Trans and our allies must ensure ‘TERFs’ either get with the times or shut up. |
| ‘Trans women’ are women. We are no different than [bio] women. Trans women are real women, even with our penises, beards, Adam’s Apples, and large limbs, and even when not recognized as female by law. Sisters, not CIS-ters! This is not a competition! | ‘Trans women’ are more authentic than [bio] women, because when we medically transition and change our documents to say we’re female, we are the only women who can prove we’re women with certified CREDENTIALS. |
| Puberty is an irreversible process! ‘Trans kids’ must be given hormones as young as possible! | ‘Trans women’ can compete in women’s sports, because after 12 months of estrogen, our bodies are now female and no longer male. |
| ‘TERFs’ are anti-sex prudes. | ‘TERFs’ are sexual perverts obsessed with genitals. Why do you care what’s in our underwear? |
| ‘Cis’ women are jealous of trans women because we’re so much hotter. | ‘TERFs’ are so ugly they look like they’re the ones who are trans. |
| ‘TERFs’ are conventionally attractive ‘cis’ women who want to restrict womanhood to conventionally attractive ‘cis’ women. | ‘TERFs’ are all ugly. |
| It’s humiliating and a human rights violation for even a penis-having ‘trans woman’ to have to get naked in the locker room in front of other penis-havers. | A woman who feels humiliated getting naked in front of a penis-having ‘trans woman’ is a bigot and moral failure. |
| The word ‘woman’ can have no objective definition to ensure that no one who identifies as a woman is excluded. | ‘Woman’ must have an objective definition in order for people who identify as one to have something to identify with. |
| ‘TERF’ ideology is racist! |
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| Feminism should be intersectional and include all women. | The rights of transwomen are more important than the rights of lesbians, gender critical women, Jewish and Muslim women, women who have been victims of rape … |
| ‘TERFs’ hate homosexuals. | ‘TERFs’ are all man-hating lesbians who want an Amazonian society. |
| ‘TERFs’ are fascists. | ‘TERFs’ are tied to radical environmentalist groups that oppose the entirety of Western Civilization. |
| Gender-critical women love abortion and are indoctrinating young white women into aborting male fetuses. | Gender-critical women are pro-lifers intent on removing abortion access for all women. |
| ‘TERFs’ are an outgrowth of the skeptic / New Atheist movement. | ‘TERFs’ are the paid minions of Evangelical Christians. |
| Zionists are all ‘TERFs’. | ‘TERFs’ are anti-Semites putting coded anti-Semitic messages into their works on gender theory. |
| ‘TERFs’ are coldhearted intellectuals who put intellectual theorizing over compassion. | ‘TERFs’ are just hysterical bigots. |
| ‘TERF’ arguments are transparent and easily disproven. | ‘TERFs’ are masters of seeming reasonable and their arguments are hard to refute. |
| ‘TERFs’ are minor and insignificant. | ‘TERFs’ are a powerful political lobby activating JK Rowling as a political cover for genocide. |
| Trans acceptance is increasing. ‘TERFs’ are in the minority. | Trans people are committing suicide because no one accepts us. |
My personal favorite is the “how dare you call me mentally ill! you make me want to kill myself!” kind of thing followed closely by the “don’t misgender me you cis scum”. Third place is “you have to accept me because I could not accept myself”.
I believe anyone who has been in a controlling and abusive relationship will recognize these kind of double standards and psychological projection which are also symptoms of several personality disorders. Hell, any thoughtful and observant person can see the immaturity and lack of consistent values in these statements. Interestingly, and sadly, we are currently seeing this kind of Orwellian double speak played out on the international political stage as well. If it quacks like a duck ……..
Thanks for the credit, Diana! <3
I cannot even take the time and energy to read or listen to all these ‘gender identity’ arguments, which are individual identities and as such irrelevant to women, because those born female, are one of the two sexes since humanity came on this planet and they are not a ‘gender’, nor have a ‘gender identity’ unless it is meant to talk about an oppressive patriarchal construct of ‘women’, which are being aped by transsexual and transgender men, can we please get back to scientific facts and reality? I can understand all the identity problems, but as long as those born female, ie women, are abused, harassed, raped and killed for just being women, so just look at your mother and
shut up!
You should add the one of how Trans activists will label people like Miranda Yardly or the LonelyTransexual transphobics even though the individuals are themselves transsexuals, albeit ones who acknowledge their sex and only use the facilities corresponding to their sex so as to respect women.
Added, thanks.
Love it!
Fantastic list!
Good points, great points actually but bit too much repetition. Some of those could easily be combined make the list bit shorter, read better and have more punch. For example, too weak for normal life but strong enough to handle military came up like three times. I don’t having slightly differently worded but still same points is necessary or useful. I think cut some of the repetition out or arrange so that they are right under each other to point trans activists slightly tweaking these basically same arguments in different situations.
Please add:
Trans: Puberty is an irreversible process! Trans kids must be given hormones as young as possible!
Also trans: trans women can compete in women’s sports, because after 12 months of estrogen, our bodies are now female and not male.
It’s actually very funny how the mainly masochistic cult of the transgender will harm it’s own adherents the most over time. Irreversibly becoming mutilated with compromised longevity via treatments, marginalised and never fitting in any rewarding social sectors, as well as exposed to high risk life styles.
Within a little over a decade this indulgent experiment will become revealed as unethical, carried out with inadequate research, driven by negative motives and interest groups as naive victims realise the nightmare they were sucked into.Litigation for monetary compensation will overcome personal embarrassment to come forward.
Mainstream society, women and children can face increased risks from deviants manipulating trans status, but it’s statistically a minor number who will be impacted compared to the massive impact the trans cult will have on it’s adherents.
Its 2022 now, your words seem prophetic
Please add: “Cis women are jealous of trans women because we’re so much hotter” vs “TERFs are so ugly they look like they’re the ones who are trans”
Please add!
TRAs: Misgendering and deadnaming are acts of violence. Words kill!
Also TRAs: When we say “kill a TERF”, “die in a fire”, or “suck my girldick”, it’s obviously a figure of speech. Stop making out that we’re threatening you.
TRAs: Feminism should be intersectional and include all women.
Also TRAs: The rights of transwomen are more important than the rights of lesbians, gender critical women, Jewish and Muslim women, women who have been victims of rape …
TRAs: TERF ideology is racist!
Also TRAs: – Black women are so masculine and ugly. It’s not fair that they get to be considered women and we don’t.
– Korean women deserve rape and death because their country’s feminist movement is led by TERFs.
TRAs: Trans people should not have to have any medical procedure that would make us infertile. We have as much right to have children as anyone else.
Also TRAs: Teenagers should be allowed to have surgery and hormones that will make them infertile later in life.
And a few more …
TRAs: There’s no objective meaning of “woman.” Society and culture define what a woman is.
Also TRAs: I’m a woman even if society doesn’t recognize me as one.
TRAs: Accepting our bodies isn’t an option. Either you affirm us, or we’ll commit suicide.
Also TRAs: It’s barbaric that some countries have approved euthanasia for detransitioned people who couldn’t live with the results of genital surgery. Why weren’t they helped to just accept accept their bodies?
TRAs: “Cis” women don’t understand the experience of being a trans woman. They don’t get to speak for us or make decisions involving us.
Also TRAs: There are no meaningful differences between “cis” and trans women. Everything we go through is something a “cis” woman can also experience, including facial hair, elevated testosterone, not having periods, or being mistaken for a man.
TRAs: Your assigned sex at birth doesn’t dictate what traits or qualities you have. That’s bio-essentialism!
Also TRAs: Since taking hormones I’ve become over-emotional, less intelligent, and interested in girly things. Now I’m just like a “cis” woman!
TRAs: No one’s saying that not conforming to gender stereotypes makes you trans. That’s a strawman.
Also TRAs: – If you’re a man who paints his nails, has a “feminine” hobby, or plays as a female character in video games, you’re actually a trans “girl” in denial and your egg is about to crack.
– Elliot Page was obviously trans all along because he wore flannel shirts and rode a boy’s bike when he was a child.
“Some ‘trans people’ have had trauma with ‘cis’ people, and prefer to date trans and non-binary people only.” Continue reading Transparadoxes: Self-Contradictions of the Gender Identity Movement | Women Are Human. Read more at: https://www.womenarehuman.com/transparadoxes-self-contradictions-of-the-gender-identity-movement/
Also women who refuse males in their shelters need to be corrected, they’re prejudiced and it’s the shelter place to fix their bigotry.
My brother held our family hostage to his “Trans” lifestyle. Abandoned his beautiful wife and 2yo son. Asked her to become his lesbian lover. Every time someone questioned him, he pulled out a gun and put it to his head. Shrink took it away and then gave it right back. Him: “…biggest drag queen in Austin, TX” When I wrote him telling him to never contact me again, he chased me all over the net telling everyone I sexually assaulted him when he was a “little girl”. He offered $100,000 for a transplantable uterus. They are destroying themselves and anyone who accepts it. These people come out of the Abyss of hell.